Part 2: The Path To Freedom Is Eliminating Shame

One common symptom of shame is developing codependent relationships with others. When working with others in their recovery one of the first things we learn is to be comfortable in your own skin – to love yourself unconditionally. If you love yourself unconditionally then you accept all the good and bad you have to offer,[…]

Part 1: “The Beginning” Shame and Addiction

With almost thirty years of recovery and twenty five years working in the addiction recovery field, I continue to evaluate barriers to recovery. What gets in the way of truly experiencing all recovery has to offer? My answer continues to be simple. Shame. It has taken me over half of my life not to view[…]

Still Clean and Still Standing Tall

Over the past year our family has overcome many heart wrenching obstacles. It all started in June 2015. My aunt had a massive stroke. After 6 months of hospitals and long term care facilities she lost the battle to stay alive. I lost my favorite person in the world.  I lost my best friend. The[…]

A Better Family

When I reached out to Michael Herbert for family intervention for my brother who was battling alcoholism, I didn’t know what to expect. Michael took a holistic approach and included the entire family in the recovery process. After my brother entered treatment, I thought my job was finished; however, Michael proposed Structured Family Recovery through[…]

Recovery…Recovered That Is The Question (Part 2)

Everyone in addiction is different and goes through their own personal process of recovery. That is the beauty of us as individuals. Everyone has their own personal battles to overcome. Some may need medication to keep from using drugs. Being on a mood stabilizer can have its benefits in the short-term; however, in the long[…]

Recovery…Recovered That Is The Question (Part 1)

The 12 step programs says that once one is in recovery they are always in recovery. Some use the term “recovered” when speaking about overcoming their addiction to drugs and alcohol. Which is correct, in recovery or recovered? And does it matter? The terms we use to describe ourselves and others matter. Language matters; however,[…]

What Is Relapse?

Do you have a family member or loved one in recovery? Are you not sure what that really means and need help understanding relapse and recovery? Recovery Guide can shed some light on this process and aide families and clients as they learn coping tools, engage differently with their loved one and learn to establish[…]

Home For The Holidays

During the holiday season many families get together for dinner and reunion.  For many the holiday season is a joyful time, for many others it is too traumatic to endure. The mixture of personalities can and often does bring about a mixture of behaviors. Old memories of events are brought to light and often make[…]

Training Wheels (cont.)

There is a saying, “move a muscle, change a thought”. Recovery for families is not an intellectual process it is action. What is that action? Find someone who can direct you to the people and places where families recover. Someone who knows how to motivate the family and the addict, to take the steps needed[…]

Training Wheels

Most people can remember learning to ride a bicycle for the first time, and falling off as a result, of not having the understanding of balance and gravity. Understanding the disease of addiction and managing recovery of that disease can be compared to waiting for a new bicycle as a present, and wanting to ride[…]