What Went Well In My Recovery (Part 3)

Support. Asking for support from my family and friends is very hard for me, because I worry about what people think about me. Asking for support is an act of acceptance, and it forces me to admit that I need the help. It’s critical to my #recovery and has made my life so much more[…]

The Holidays Are Here

During the holiday season many families get together for dinner and reunions.  For some the holidays are a joyful time, for others it can be too traumatic to endure. The mixture of personalities can and often does bring about a mixture of behaviors. Old memories of events brought to light can make for great conversation. Then[…]

From Crisis To Calm

My son began smoking pot in middle school when he was fourteen.  His grades started declining and he became lethargic and had no interest in anything.  He got caught smoking pot in the tenth grade and was expelled. His father and myself decided to send him to a prep school.  His situation got worse as he[…]

Another Look at Structured Family Recovery™

To start let’s talk about treatment and what treatment offers. Treatment offers stabilization for the addict and alcoholic in the acute phase of their recovery. Most addicts and alcoholics can stay clean and sober while in treatment. There are some exceptions, but for the most part it’s doable. Treatment programs seem to know the value of family[…]

Keep It Simple Series Part 2: What Do Families Need to Understand About Recovery?

There is a lot of misunderstanding about addiction and how families can help. Stigma and denial play an important role in blocking the recovery process. “I still have a job”, “I’m too young”, and “I’m not that bad”. Somehow the idea of being a “functional addict or alcoholic” validates the continued use.  Family members buy into these misconceptions. If the[…]

What is Structured Family Recovery™?

To start let’s talk about treatment and what treatment offers. Treatment offers stabilization for the addict and alcoholic in the acute phase of addiction. Most addicts and alcoholics can stay clean and sober during a detox or inpatient treatment, there are some exceptions. Addiction is  that “thing” takes over and even in the best conditions[…]

Part 1: “The Beginning” Shame and Addiction

With almost thirty years of recovery and twenty five years working in the addiction recovery field, I continue to evaluate barriers to recovery. What gets in the way of truly experiencing all recovery has to offer? My answer continues to be simple. Shame. It has taken me over half of my life not to view[…]