Healing The Family by Enabling Recovery

Imagine waking suddenly on the deck of a ship in the middle of a storm. You’re far out to sea, there isn’t any land as far as you can see. You’re not alone on this ship—your whole family is there with you—but how did you get here? The last thing you can remember is being Read more about Healing The Family by Enabling Recovery[…]

Dying for a Road Trip: How Drugged Driving Hurts Us All

23 year old Colorado resident Tanya Guevara just wanted to get home safe and sound with her son on that day in 2010. But that would never happen, thanks to 22 year old drug user Steven Ryan, who took the pair’s lives in a marijuana-related auto crash. The court later sentenced Ryan to 10 years Read more about Dying for a Road Trip: How Drugged Driving Hurts Us All[…]

Chewing Coca Leaves – A Reservation for Relapse

I’m back from my trip to Peru. I was excited about going on this trip as it was going to be the first trip I’ve taken with a group. I usually travel alone, but this time I wanted to try something different. Prior to my trip I talked to several people about going to Peru Read more about Chewing Coca Leaves – A Reservation for Relapse[…]

What Went Well In My Recovery (Part 3)

Support. Asking for support from my family and friends is very hard for me, because I worry about what people think about me. Asking for support is an act of acceptance, and it forces me to admit that I need the help. It’s critical to my #recovery and has made my life so much more Read more about What Went Well In My Recovery (Part 3)[…]

What Went Well In My Recovery (Part 2)

Hi Michael…..I’m pleased to share how proud I feel when I see my son pursuing his career path, thinking clearly, concerned about his physical fitness, and once again being the thoughtful, caring, and loving person I knew him to be when he was a youngster. Because we came so close to what could have happened, Read more about What Went Well In My Recovery (Part 2)[…]

What Went Well In My Recovery (Part 1)

This past year has been extremely challenging with the added responsibilities that come with being a new father and husband. Over the course of the year, my reliance upon my higher power has grown stronger than ever before and I learned how important it was for me to maintain my spiritual condition. Maintaining my spiritual Read more about What Went Well In My Recovery (Part 1)[…]

Faith Moves Mountains

As a fifty-seven year old male who at times thinks he is thirty, recently realized I’ve been here for a half century. This is in part because I don’t get to see the fullness of me, the whole physical picture that others see. Of course I get glimpses in the mirror, but never the full Read more about Faith Moves Mountains[…]

The Holidays Are Here

During the holiday season many families get together for dinner and reunions.  For some the holidays are a joyful time, for others it can be too traumatic to endure. The mixture of personalities can and often does bring about a mixture of behaviors. Old memories of events brought to light can make for great conversation. Then Read more about The Holidays Are Here[…]

What About Smoking?

You are reminded in some self help groups that Alcohol is a drug. Seventy percent of addicts and eighty five percent of alcoholics smoke. Wow, talk about addiction.  Treatment programs talk about a holistic approach. They use a medical model, but they allow smoking. One of the excuses is “lets take care of one thing at a time”. Really? Read more about What About Smoking?[…]

Another Look at Structured Family Recovery™

To start let’s talk about treatment and what treatment offers. Treatment offers stabilization for the addict and alcoholic in the acute phase of their recovery. Most addicts and alcoholics can stay clean and sober while in treatment. There are some exceptions, but for the most part it’s doable. Treatment programs seem to know the value of family Read more about Another Look at Structured Family Recovery™[…]

Keep It Simple Series Part 2: What Do Families Need to Understand About Recovery?

There is a lot of misunderstanding about addiction and how families can help. Stigma and denial play an important role in blocking the recovery process. “I still have a job”, “I’m too young”, and “I’m not that bad”. Somehow the idea of being a “functional addict or alcoholic” validates the continued use.  Family members buy into these misconceptions. If the Read more about Keep It Simple Series Part 2: What Do Families Need to Understand About Recovery?[…]

What is Structured Family Recovery™?

To start let’s talk about treatment and what treatment offers. Treatment offers stabilization for the addict and alcoholic in the acute phase of addiction. Most addicts and alcoholics can stay clean and sober during a detox or inpatient treatment, there are some exceptions. Addiction is  that “thing” takes over and even in the best conditions Read more about What is Structured Family Recovery™?[…]

African American Alcoholics (Part 1)

My names is James C, I’m an alcoholic who happens to be of African American descent. My experience coming into alcoholics anonymous is similar to most other African Americans in that there was the fear of not being accepted and being judged on the color of my skin not the content of my character. Just Read more about African American Alcoholics (Part 1)[…]

Part 2: The Path To Freedom Is Eliminating Shame

One common symptom of shame is developing codependent relationships with others. When working with others in their recovery one of the first things we learn is to be comfortable in your own skin – to love yourself unconditionally. If you love yourself unconditionally then you accept all the good and bad you have to offer, Read more about Part 2: The Path To Freedom Is Eliminating Shame[…]

Still Clean and Still Standing Tall

Over the past year our family has overcome many heart wrenching obstacles. It all started in June 2015. My aunt had a massive stroke. After 6 months of hospitals and long term care facilities she lost the battle to stay alive. I lost my favorite person in the world.  I lost my best friend. The Read more about Still Clean and Still Standing Tall[…]

She Trembles

Trembling, as I document the downward spiral of, my daughter, my light. She has always been strong and independent. It is hard to watch her struggle and denial the substance that has taken over her former self. She a mere skeleton of the happy child she was once. The trail of fabrication about where she Read more about She Trembles[…]

How Can Honesty Help You?

For those in recovery, being honest can be difficult. In fact, it can be the single most important predictor of success in recovery. There is a reason it is so difficult. Recovery involves looking at our whole selves and being honest with others and ourselves about the reality of who we are and how we Read more about How Can Honesty Help You?[…]

All I Want For The Holidays Is A Sober Son

This message is about faith, hope and Gratitude. I first would like to give thanks to my higher power I choose to call G’d. I can remember as a child growing up wanting to become someone famous for helping others! I was a rebel but was against using drugs and alcohol as a child. Due Read more about All I Want For The Holidays Is A Sober Son[…]